How To Get Married

Hello blog.

So, this happened.

Reader, I married him

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We kept things small and quiet, which is exactly what we wanted. It was quite nice not telling everyone about getting engaged and organising everything, but it did make finding out how to actually do the things difficult because despite all my Google skills, not many people seem to just get married. The majority of sites and forums I found were all geared around people who want the big event, which is fine, but not what we were looking for. So, I thought I would put together the stuff I found out in the hope that it helps other people. Hooray.

We got married in what is called the Statutory Room in Bristol. You can have 4 guests with you for this, and it cost £75 to book the room and to pay for the ceremony. You need to give notice in the district that you live in (so for us, that was South Gloucestershire) which takes 28 days to clear (in the majority of cases – I think it’s double if one of you is not British, but obviously it’s best to ask your local authority), and is valid for a year. Giving notice costs £35 each, and you need to be able to provide ID – we used our passports and driving licences to prove nationality and home address.

The gov.uk site is fairly useful in telling you what is needed, but one of the things I didn’t realise is that you should book the venue first, then give notice because your notice is only valid for the location where you are getting married. Sarah was very helpful for this, because she had originally given notice to marry in one place last year, before booking the Forge and getting married at the registry office instead.

Something else I wasn’t able to find out is about rings – at least in our ceremony, it wasn’t a necessity. Alex doesn’t like the idea of wearing a ring, and I was prepared to make a dash to Argos to buy a cheap ring, but we had to go in before the ceremony to check over the details that go in the register and to choose the wording that would be said, and it was then that we found out that there’s just a separate bit to say about giving a ring. (Wording wise – there are three different parts for the two sections, and then about fifteen different ways to go “‘ere, have this ring”)

The ceremony took about 20 minutes I think – I didn’t really check the time (“A watch doesn’t really go with this outfit“) and we were able to take photos during the ceremony, and then afterwards with a fake register (You can’t take them when you’re signing the real register – I assume because it has the details of the people who have married most recently in there)

I think that’s about everything I know! If people are interested, I’ll post about what I wore – mostly because people keep saying nice things about my dress and I’m like IT WAS £22 FROM ASOS. TWENTY TWO QUID!!! MY LIPSTICK COST MORE THAN MY DRESS!

New Years Resolutions 2017

3 selfies, 2 foods and 1 dog. What's up with that, Instagram? #2016bestnine

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My ninth resolution post! That’s kinda crazy. So, as ever, I’m going to look at last years points:

  • Build my strength more
    Actually, yeah, I think I have done this. I changed my routine in May or June to start going to the gym before work instead of after, and that was the best thing I did. I have really enjoyed weight lifting, and have even started running. I KNOW.
  • Look after myself more
    Going to the gym meant that I haven’t taken painkillers for my back in a year. Woo! I have also been seeing a physio on a regular basis which has also helped a lot.
    Beauty wise, I haven’t been very good. I think I’ve only had two hair cuts this year and haven’t been near a salon for my nails!
  • Study!
    Yeaaaaaah….lets not talk about this one. I got so busy!
  • Blog, but organically
    Yeah, I think I did. If by organically, I mean “when I remembered I had a blog and had some time”. To be honest, it’s nice to have somewhere to just write about things I like without feeling like I have to write something.
  • Something something Bonjour, Blogger!
    I reduced down the amount I was posting on BB, and it has been a lot easier for me to fit in. Automating a lot of social media stuff really helped keep the traffic at the same level, which is good and frustrating (good – yay, people still visit! frustrating – what was the bloody point in the first place?)
    I’d really like to hear what other people want to see from the site in 2017 – if you’ve got a few minutes spare, please head over to the survey!
  • Stop saving for best
    This has been surprisingly difficult! I even do this with food, which is so dumb. SO DUMB.

So what am I planning for 2017?

  • Get out more
    This year, we picked up a new pup, Jess. (I haven’t even posted about her here yet, how rubbish!) She’s a complete knobhead but very very adorable. My aim next year is to take her and Jill out more often (not Fern though because she’s an old lady and hates going outside)
  • Keep improving at the gym
    Not just by increasing the amount I lift (do u even lift bro) but with the cardio as well. Running has been a new thing this year that I hate but that burns more calories, so increasing the length of time I can run before slowing down would be pretty awesome.
  • Procrastinate less
    I’m writing this to procrastinate from doing something useful. Stop this, me.
  • Meet more people
    I have met some excellent new people this year, and next year I want to keep meeting more! It’s one of the best things about Twitter for me – that I can meet people where I live who are interested in the same things as me without having to do any weird meetup type things.
  • Say yes!
    I am not very good at saying yes to big scary things, so let’s change that one as well.

What are you planning next year?

Chat chat chat

I wrote about chatty blogs on Bonjour Blogger last week, and why I think they’re making a return. It’s something I’ve been thinking about for a while, as really old blog posts of mine come up in my Timehop.

Posts back in the day (aka 2008) were basically me rambling on about nonsense stuff. Todays Timehop brought up a post where I talked about being over complimented on a dress, why agencies are shit (still true) and how my dad was getting married that day, which surprisingly wasn’t the main focus of the post. Posts around that time included random pictures from my iPhone (just one picture, filtered to shit with an app that was supposed to make pictures look like a Polaroid and that you had to shake the phone to “develop” the picture. Yeah, early iPhone apps were odd.), posts about Topshop and how they were selling some weird shit and tv shows that I liked.

So why did people stop? I guess bloggers felt like they had fit in better to get further, and I know I did that. But we seem to have gone full circle and to be more different, bloggers are being a bit more chatty, which also helps build the loyal audience. I’m going to try to be a bit more chatty and a bit less generic. It shouldn’t be that difficult…or perhaps I have spoken too soon!

This week has been pretty normal, I’ve been to the gym and work, I’ve done some painting (glossing doors. I hate glossing. It is literally the worst part of decorating, and I will always end up getting some gloss somewhere on my body that will take a few days to get off.). This is why I don’t vlog and why I don’t really Snapchat much – because my daily dailyness is pretty boring!

So, what’s going on with you?